Jake Warfield was left suicidal after a horrific attack by bullies. I was utterly appalled when I read in today’s paper that a boy aged 11 with autism tried to take to commit suicide after he was hit over the head at least 12 times with a metal pole by school bullies
I call them cowards because the boy is suffering from post-traumatic stress disorder.
The schoolboy from Staffordshire, now 14, was left with serious injuries to his face, head, arms, knees, and shoulder.
Jake had to take three months off school and the bullies were expelled after the two attacks which happened on consecutive days. His mother said he was first attacked by ten boys and the following day another bully two years older than himself attacked him with a pole.
Dianne the mother of Jake has now joined a campaign to change laws around bullying in the hope of saving children’s lives and raising awareness of bullying and the devastating effects it has on the victims.
She told the newspaper that her son had been dealing with bullies for a few months and it was so stressful that she did not want him to attend school. The encounter with the bullies has traumatized him, his head was totally mishap end after the beating.
Jake had PTSD a mental breakdown and was off school for three months. I wasn’t letting him go back there.
She said Jake’s autism made it hard for him to explain his emotions and has undergone two years of counseling but still struggles with anxiety. Jake’s world has been turned upside down because he does not feel safe on his own and is unable to go on holiday because he cannot cope with situations involving large groups.
He has three other siblings and his mother has formed an alliance with other parents whose children have been the victim of bullying, the parents will be visiting schools across the country to give children a voice and to be heard that bullying is not acceptable. They will be visiting schools across the country to share their stories in the hope of minimizing bullying.
Take Bullying seriously – Children have Rights Too!
I was a victim of bullying when I was at school. I had supportive parents, my three children were victims of bullying and intimidation at school. I took them to self defence classes which boosted their confidence and empowered them. If bullying is not dealt with immediately, it can have long term effects on your health and career and you will either live a life of a victim or become a bully yourself. Read my blogpost – Say no Bullying
Bullying may have worse long-term effects than child abuse NHS
“Bullied children are five times more at risk of anxiety than those maltreated,” reports the Daily Mail. A study looking at both UK and US children found an association between childhood bullying and anxiety, depression and self-harm in adulthood.
People bullied by their peers in childhood were found to be more likely to have mental health problems in young adulthood than those who were ill-treated by adults, including their parents.
But the headlines are misleading – this figure only reflects the results of the US study. The results from the UK part of the study, which included more than three times the number of children, were not nearly as dramatic.
There are also some problems with the way this study was designed. It relied on children and parents self-reporting their experiences, which may make the results less reliable. For obvious reasons, parents, in particular, may have played down their ill-treatment of their children.
Still, the authors’ conclusion that schools, health services and other agencies should co-ordinate their response to bullying seems a valid suggestion.
If you are concerned that your child is being bullied, it’s essential that you or your child, or both of you, talk to their school. You could ask to see their anti-bullying policy, which every school has to have by law. This will allow you to see how the school plans to prevent and tackle bullying.
Read more advice about bullying, including spotting the signs and what you can do to help.
Analysis by Bazian
Edited by NHS Website
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