I was a stay at home Dad for a couple of years. The recession had hit hard and I found myself without a job or prospects. Losing your livelihood and providing for your children is a bitter pill to swallow. The big decision was how do we live and provide for two new hungry mouths? Our savings were dwindling and I was starting to get stressed.
It can get very lonely being on your own
From being the breadwinner to being a stay at home Dad, was a very big decision for me to make. I had entered a new phase in my adult life. I was now assuming the role of a stay at home dad, learning new skills like weekly shopping, laundry, childcare and getting to know my children better.
Society always sees the mum as the stay at home parent. It made financial sense for me to stay at home and be the caregiver. I was beginning to enjoy it. Ok! so I put my career on hold, now I had to figure out a way to use my time wisely and earn some income.
It could be very lonely at times and I could understand why wives craved their husband’s attention if they were cooped up with their children the whole day and no – one to talk to. The odd time I would ask a neighbour to babysit while I attended job fairs, keeping my skills up to date ensuring I remain employable when I went back to work.
Updating Your Skills
I wanted a career change after being a stay at home Dad. Besides bonding with your children, you do learn other transferable skills. I attend the local job club and speaking to a job adviser gave me the opportunity to figure out what to do when I eventually returned to work.
I took evening classes at my local college. I attended a computer course for six months and was pretty competent and confident that I was computer literate and adequately prepared for a job that required computer skills at that time.
I applied for various evening educational courses at my local college, I met other dads who were updating their skills and it was great to socialize with other dads.
I was getting the balance right. Great!!- I was managing the children quite well, I was becoming an expert cook and knew how to budget. We had a great family relationship. The secret to a happy marriage is to work as a team and talk about everything.
My wife enjoyed being back at work. Financially we just about kept our heads above water. We made sure that our mortgage payments were covered. We ran a tight ship financially and made sure our children lacked nothing. Once a month my wife would attend the PTA and speak very excitedly about how refreshing it was to meet other parents. The PTA was looking for more members. I think wives are more gregarious when it comes to socializing. It was obvious that she was enjoying her leisure time with other parents, and wanted me to become a PTA member as well.
See What You Gained!
My wife was asked to join the School board of governors and literally dragged me into getting involved with the Parent Teaching Association. I think it was more fear than a reluctance to join the PTA. Fear can stop you from trying new things. I recommend you read “Feel the Fear and Do it Anyway” by Susan Jeffers. This little gem travels with me wherever I go.
Readers have thanked me for recommending this book. It has helped them overcome their fears.To get back to my story, I did fundraising for the school and developed organizational skills and became more confident when communicating with other parents. I was appointed the chairman of the PTA and extremely grateful for the opportunity.
Your Transferable Skills
I learned a new set of skills. I could chair meetings, write reports for the annual PTA meeting, I also developed speaking skills when giving a motivational speech to parents at fundraising events. All these transferable skills came to my aid when I was employed at a Human Rights Organisation and later at the Job Centre.
My computer course paid off, I organized job fairs for employers and employees. I ran workshops for unemployed Dads and passed on motivational material which Dads could use on a daily basis.
I loved my job with a passion and my greatest reward was to see unemployed Fathers back into the workforce. I would recommend you get involved with voluntary if you have been unemployed for a while. The skills you develop are transferable and looks good on your resume when applying for work.
During the time I was a stay at home Dad, I tried several income streams to supplement my income. It was not as easy as I thought and after one failed attempt after another I gave up.
I tried Amway, Herbal Life, Multi-Level Marketing you name it. I made money but I was spending more than I was earning. We get so desperate that we start looking for quick fixes like Getting Rich Quick Schemes, Offers that are Too Good to Be True. Today there are more online scams and one has to be more vigilant. Watch out for those empty promises of instant wealth its a sure sign of a scam
Over the years, Affiliate Marketing has grown into a multi-million dollar business and the earning potential is huge if you know what you doing. There are lots of genuine affiliate companies. Amazon is the largest affiliate marketing company. However, it does take proper training, research, time and patience to make money online.
To quote Mark Zuckerberg words, owner of Facebook- “It’s not because of the amount of money for me and my colleagues; the most important thing is that we create an open information flow for people. Having media corporations owned by conglomerates is not just an attractive idea to me.”
When I was a stay at home Dad, I dreamt of having my own website for Dads and also combine it with online marketing.I had no clue where to start. I did a google search and after many reviews found the perfect Internet Marketing Program. Not only could I design my very own website. I could refer readers to Wealthy affiliate and earn a commission.
My website is up and running for the third year. I have had so much enjoyment helping Dads get to grips with Fatherhood. Some readers have joined Wealthy Affiliate. I am still learning how to improve my marketing skills and constantly working to improve my website.
I am impressed with Wealthy Affiliate tutorials, webinars and the community are so helpful. It cost you nothing just a click of the button. You will receive expert training on designing your own website and you will find everything to run a successful internet business.
Welcome to Your New Lifestyle
My main goal was to learn all there was to know about WordPress. I am learning as I am earning. I am enjoying every moment at Wealthy Affiliate. I created a niche that I am comfortable with and one which will eventually help dads to earn a lucrative business
I am semi-retired and I can take my online business anywhere in the world. Its flexible and month and I have a niche market. I can dictate my own hours and earn passive income. I look forward to working on it every day. I get these brainstorming moments for my next post in the early hours of the morning. I am an early riser and spend about three hours in the early morning when my brain cells seem to function better clearly.
The opportunity for me to share information and ideas with Dads feels so right. I am confident that my website is of value to fathers worldwide and will inspire them to inspire their dreams.
If you are you interested in a business within any niche or want to turn a hobby into a niche, Wealthy Affiliate will teach you all these skills and more. All it takes is a website, proper training and supportive members to help you all the way. I forgot to add A Positive Mental Attitude.
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