Developing Your Childs Potential
Every parent would like to think they have raised an Einstein or a Mozart in the family. They have already decided their children’s future. I too had plans and ambitions for my children. Today they have chosen their own career paths and are extremely happy in what they are doing.
We as Parents share a Universal Dream that our children will lead happy successful lives as adults. We lay moral foundations but most important of all we should build on LIFE SKILLS which play an important role in their lives and their children’s lives.We sow seeds of encouragement, hope, positivity in their tiny subconscious minds hoping that it will one day germinate into mature confident minds. We only have them for a short while before they find their own voice in the world.
My recipe for a well-balanced Child
Instill Love and Confidence at Every Opportunity Love your child unconditionally it gives them a sense of self-worth which has nothing to do with physical looks or talent. Love them for who they are not what they are.
- Put a belief system in place for your children so they can deal with success and failure in equal measure.
- Encourage them to develop confidence in their own abilities, praise and encouragement is highly recommended.
- Refrain from using the word Can’t in your vocabulary.
- Show them that it’s okay to fail but reinforce the word “You can do it if You try again”
Children have a marvelous imagination, sadly they lose it as they get older. Some view it as an airy fairy pie in the sky dream – Thank God for dreamers like the Wright Brothers who invented flying or the pioneers in the medical field.
Christian Barnard who performed the first heart transplant in South Africa. What we see today in this marvelous modern world of science and technology, is a result of a few determined individuals who faced ridicule.They were not afraid to dream and imagine that they could make a difference to the world.
The world is full of role models who were courageous and who experienced obstacles. They overcame them through self-belief and determination. To name a few we had Edison, Abraham Lincoln, Gandhi, Hellen Keller Mother Theresa, Oprah and Edith Cavell an English nurse who nursed the enemy and British soldiers. She meticulously planned their escape until she was caught and shot. Introduce inspiring books to your children’s library it will rub off and influence their thinking eventually.
My role model is Nelson Mandela a South African activist and former president. Nelson Mandela helped bring an end to apartheid and has been a global advocate for human rights. [….]. His actions landed him in prison for nearly three decades and made him the face of the anti-apartheid movement both within his country and internationally.
Released in 1990, he participated in the eradication of apartheid and in 1994 became the first black president of South Africa, forming a multiethnic government to oversee the country’s transition.
After retiring from politics in 1999, he remained a devoted champion for peace and social justice in his own nation and around the world until his death in 2013 at the age of 95.His legacy lives on through his foundation for children.
Developing a tough exterior
You have all heard the expression “When the going gets Tough the Tough gets going”. Life never runs smooth and we learn how to overcome obstacles. I think I have my grandmother to thank for my resilience.
She taught me how to overcome obstacles, face my demons and keep on trying even if I failed. It’s important to support and encourage your children when they are facing adversity. They will, in turn, learn how to deal with life’s situations.
Building Self-Esteem in Children
It’s important to build children’s self-esteem from a very early age in order for them to be able to deal with strong emotions and develop positive relationships. An expert gives practical advice on how to boost your child’s confidence.
Personally speaking as a Dad I drilled my kids and was told later by my eldest son that I was a strict Dad. My wife and I have no regrets as my teenage children made healthy choices and decisions which they still continue to do in their adult life.
According to Amy Morin, LCSW, who states that the overall goal of your discipline strategies should be for your child to learn self-discipline. Kids with self-discipline are able to make healthy choices even when their parents aren’t standing over their shoulder telling them what to do.
Children who develop self-discipline are more likely to live happier lives, according to a study published in the Journal of Personality. Research indicates that people who have self-discipline experience less conflict and less emotional distress in life.
Self-discipline is one of the six life skills your child should be learning through your discipline practices. There are several areas in life where kids should develop self-discipline in order to grow up to become healthy, responsible adults.
Developing a healthy work ethic
I encouraged all my teenage children to have part-time jobs during the school holidays. The money they earned they spent wisely on items they wanted and still managed to save. This has taught them the value of money and how to use money wisely.
What other Life skills can You Teach Your Children?
There is no perfect parenting guidebook we rely on how we were brought up by our parents or watched our relatives or neighbours nurture their own children. Before I wrap up this post let me add by saying that any life skill you can pass on to child, share it with them. It will equip them when they are older and they have to deal with life’s’ situations.
Enroll your child in a public speaking course or a drama class to give them confidence in speaking in public or dealing with people in authority. I enrolled in a weekend workshop in London as my job involved dealing with the public.
It was the best investment in myself. I could handle clients without getting flustered which raised my level of self-esteem and made my job enjoyable.
Children develop a phobia of public speaking and become reticent when dealing with the public in later life. So many children grow up in this massive fear of public speaking, they don’t want to get up in front of a crowd because they are scared of speaking in public. Make that difference with your children and raise happy confident children.
If children live with criticism,
They learn to condemn.
If children live with hostility,
They learn to fight.
If children live with ridicule,
They learn to be shy.
If children live with shame,
They learn to feel guilty.
If children live with encouragement,
They learn confidence.
If children live with tolerance,
They learn to be patient.
If children live with praise,
They learn to appreciate.
If children live with acceptance,
They learn to love.
If children live with approval,
They learn to like themselves.
If children live with honesty,
They learn truthfulness.
If children live with security,
They learn to have faith in themselves and others.
If children live with friendliness,
They learn the world is a nice place in which to live.