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December 8, 2017 by Richard 6 Comments

How to Cope with the Loss of a Partner

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This is one topic I have been trying to avoid especially when we are so near to the Festive season. I know we all have to die sometime. Lately, it has been on my mind quite a lot, not in a morbid sort of way.

God knows, how many innocent victims lost their lives in recent wars. I am not afraid to question my own mortality, it’s logical that when we are born we have to die. How do we cope when someone close to us dies?

What is it really like to lose your partner in your early 30s? Read how three women who dreamt of a long and happy life with their partners, share the pain of facing life on their own. Read more

Its a normal reaction for people to grieve when they lose something or someone important to them. The way grief affects you depends on lots of things, including what kind of loss you have suffered, your upbringing, your beliefs or religion, your age, your relationships, and your physical and mental health. 

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People react in different ways to a loss. Anxiety and helplessness often come first. Anger is also common, including feeling angry at someone who has died for “leaving you behind”. Sadness often comes later.

Feelings like these are a natural part of the grieving process. Knowing that they are common may help them seem more normal. It’s also important to know that they will pass.

Some people take a lot longer than others to recover. Some need help from a counselor or therapist or their GP. Gradually you come to terms with the loss and the intense feelings subside.

How to cope with grief and loss

There’s no instant fix. You might feel affected every day for about a year to 18 months after a major loss. But after this time the grief is less likely to be at the forefront of your mind.

  • Express yourself. Talking is often a good way to soothe painful emotions. Talking to a friend, family member, health professional or counselor can begin the healing process.
  • Allow yourself to feel sad. It’s a healthy part of the grieving process. 
  • Keep your routine up. Keeping up simple things like walking the dog can help.
  • Sleep. Emotional strain can make you very tired. If you’re having trouble sleeping, see your GP.
  • Eat healthily. A healthy, well-balanced diet will help you cope.
  • Avoid things that “numb” the pain, such as alcohol. It will make you feel worse once the numbness wears off.
  • Go to counseling if it feels right for you – but perhaps not straight away. Counseling may be more useful after a couple of weeks or months. Only you will know when you’re ready.

Grieving when you have Children

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When you have children, you may not want to show your feelings. Sometimes this is a good thing. For example, showing anger towards their other parent during a separation can be painful for a child to see.

Reassure your child that the separation isn’t their fault. Keep their routine as normal as possible, and tell them what’s happening so they’re less confused by it all.

However, if both parents are grieving for a loved one, it’s sometimes good for children to see that it’s normal to sometimes feel sad and cry.

Pay attention if your child wants to share their feelings, whether it’s through talking, drawing or games. Children need to feel they are listened to, so include them in decisions and events if it feels right.

When to get Help

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Get help if any of the following apply to you:

  • You don’t feel able to cope with overwhelming emotions or daily life.
  • The intense emotions aren’t subsiding.
  • You’re not sleeping.
  • You have symptoms of depression or anxiety.
  • Your relationships are suffering.
  • You’re having sexual problems.
  • You’re becoming accident-prone.
  • You’re caring for someone who isn’t coping well.

Your GP is a good place to start. They can give you advice about other support services, refer you to a counselor, or prescribe medication if needed.
Or you can contact support organizations directly, such as Cruse Bereavement Care (0808 808 1677) or Samaritans (116 123).
USA  Bereavement Counseling

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Comments

  1. rebecca cosmidou says

    November 11, 2016 at 11:58 am

    Hi, Richard! This is a very informative post about grief and how to cope with a loss of a beloved person! As a clinical psychologist my self i have to say that you speak to my heart when you report this very touching story of your relative! It’s important to understand the stages of loss and ofcourse the signs that note that there is something wrong and we need help! Keep up the good job!
    Best wishes,
    Rebecca!

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    • Richard says

      November 11, 2016 at 12:26 pm

      Thank you so much Rebecca for those kind comments. Yes! Indeed we should seek help when we can’t cope with life’s trauma

      Reply
  2. Andrew Bromley says

    December 12, 2017 at 5:58 pm

    Family bereavement is handled by people in different ways. I have experienced and witnessed myself,with the loss of my parents, most of my uncles and aunts and a brother in law. Natural emotions are released which usually help with the situation while others are effected more deeply. I believe your post will help others come to terms and seek guidance.

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    • Richard says

      December 12, 2017 at 7:40 pm

      Thanks Andrew for the feedback. Dying, loss of a loved one is very hard to accept. I do hope that readers will find comfort in my post

      Richard

      Reply
  3. Adele Murray says

    July 4, 2018 at 1:04 pm

    Hi Richard!
    Wow! I’ve loved looking through this! You’ve done great! I admire how you’ve covered so many issues!!! Or topics i should say.. Thanks So much for telling me about it!
    I especially like that you’ve covered loss.. something everyone of us need to be able to deal with ?
    I always remember how you guided & helped me grow when our paths crossed & Helena too!
    Thanks a million!
    Love always to you both! Xoxo ??

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    • Richard says

      July 6, 2018 at 8:39 pm

      Dear Adele,
      How very kind of you to give me such heartfelt comments. I want the world to know about my website.
      Dads are very important in their children’s development from the time they are born right into adolescence.

      We have great memories of you spending time with us, the laughter and the serious chats on life made it all so memorable. I hope we can do it again. I am thankful that you found this particular post helpful
      Richard

      Reply

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