We discuss every topic in our lives with our partners, friends or family members, but speaking about dying is still taboo. Birth and Death go hand in hand. It’s a subject we will avoid it all cost.
I think we believe that dying only happens to others and not to us. In a weird sort of way, we watch death every day. We watch the news, we catch a late movie or read murder thrillers.
We are taking our health seriously exercising more attending stress classes eating healthier.Let’s face it we will die at some stage and no one escapes it and that includes you.We are born and sadly we die. My question is why are we so afraid to face it.
Is Death a Morbid Subject?
As I am getting older and close family members are dying I am questioning my own mortality. While most retirees are looking at holiday brochures, I am looking at undertakers, burials versus cremations.
It’s become very expensive and we have put a funeral plan in place so as to alleviate the stress of my children having to handle the funeral arrangements.
We have a wedding planner so why not have a funeral planner it’s something to think about in the near future.
My grandmother and my mother had a savings plan for their burial and we thought it was a normal part of life.
When my grandmother passed away she had her funeral plan covered and there was no financial stress on other family members
‘Death was a hot topic’
According to Satish Modi, a businessman, philanthropist and author, stated that in the Victorian era in London, death was openly debated.
“In the late 19th century, the standard of life used to be much lower and people died much earlier. The time people had on this planet was very limited – the average life expectancy was around 48 [by 1901]. Nowadays people can expect to live into the high 90s. In the Victorian era, people understood that they had little time left to live a life, and they confronted and talked about it
Gradually, world events since the end of the Victorian reign have made death even harder to talk about, he explains.
“We’ve had two world wars between then and the present day; so many people have died. People were and still are very affected by these wars. People don’t want to talk about death.”
He adds: “Death is a very difficult area that we don’t want happening to us. It’s tough to come to terms with it. But we have to plan our death in the world in the same way we’d plan a holiday, for example.”
Modi’s new book In Love with Death encourages people to have open discussions with mortality, dying and raising awareness and possibility that death can offer,
There is a moral debate about assisted dying ( euthanasia) some countries have legalised assisted dying.Read more
Richard and Judy TV personalities revealed they would have a suicide pact and assist the other to pass over or would let dying take its natural course.
According to Dr John Troyer of the University of Bath, writing for The Conversation, says: “Our increasing longevity has given much more humans than ever before the opportunity to begin thinking about not only how a person wants to die but what kind of death it should be.
And the tension between society and the individual is best shown by the current debate about assisted dying: the rights of the person to decide how and when to die and the counter argument that this will essentially undermine the moral fabric of society.