In the eighties, very few macho men were pushing a pram yet alone carrying an infant in a baby carrier strapped to their hairy chest. In those days, men still considered and expected women to feed, change diapers, push prams and carry babies.
I am a bit of a feminist and got into an argument many a time with husbands and wives when asked my opinion on gender roles. My views were completely different and I argued that men should play an active role in child development from birth.
Today more and more dads are seen pushing prams, carrying infants in baby carriers, doing household chores and the weekly shop. Three cheers! for feminism. I was a stay at home Dad myself when I lost my job. My wife was the sole breadwinner. The joke bandied about by friends was that I was a kept man.
Memories of the Baby Sling
I remember the first baby sling as it was called in those days, 1981 to be precise. It was a blue baby sling from Mother Care. I bought it in Oxford Street London. I proudly walked down the High Street with one toddler strapped in the pram, the other standing behind him on the pram and my baby daughter strapped to my hairless chest in the baby carrier.
I could not care less who was staring. I was a Super Dad with my groceries tied to the handles of the pram and the pamper nappies stuck underneath the pram tray. The kids thought it was fun as I whizzed down the hill making a sound of a fire engine. “Some more please Daddy“, they would scream.
I would clutch my chest gasping for air making those weird noises Dads do when they are interacting with their toddlers. My children would shriek with laughter as I fell to the floor. What great memories they were. My reversal role as a hands-on dad was the most rewarding experience of my life. I would urge any Dad to do it for a couple of months perhaps a year. More about that later…..
How quick the years fly, my adult children have flown the nest and have started their own families. I now have four beautiful grandchildren. My eldest son recently had a baby son, and my instinct as a Dad kicked in. I did a little research on what baby carriers were on the market. I was amazed at the range of baby carriers on Amazon. One particular brand that impressed me was the Choice of Baby Bjorn Baby Carriers and it’s range of Baby products.
Why should men walk around with babies in baby carriers?
According to Björn Jakobson who developed the baby carrier in the seventies, stated that “Carrying a newborn close to your heart is like being in seventh heaven,” I am not so sure I was in the seventh heaven when I carried my toddlers around in a carrier, what I did experience was a feeling of closeness and intense love with each of them.
I felt protective towards them being so close to me. It also made them feel secure. I was beginning to understand a little bit how protective mothers can be towards their children
When I had them in the carrier I would talk and sing to them in a soothing tone, occasionally those laser-sharp eyes would gaze into my eyes with the most angelic smile and my heart would melt. Yes! I loved carrying them around in the carrier wherever I went. It felt very good having them close to me and I could not understand why other Dads were not doing it. I felt they were missing out on quality time with their baby.
Connecting with Your Baby
Babies need lots of body contact during the first few months – I remember when my children were born they would hold onto my index finger for dear life. After their bath, I put them on their tummy and placed them on my chest, it was probably my heartbeat that put them to sleep almost immediately.
I think having your baby close to you in a baby carrier is a substitute for when they were in the womb and is actually helping them adjust to the outside world. Our body heat, our heartbeat and the sound of our voices become familiar to our baby and makes them feel secure. A baby needs physical close contact which is just as important as sleeping and eating.
Would I recommend a Baby Carrier? A most definite Yes!!
From personal experience as a hands on Dad, I would urge you to invest in a baby carrier as soon as possible. Not only do you gel with your baby but it will give you that special quality time if you are at work full time and you don’t get a chance to interact with them.
Grab every minute you can with them they grow very quickly and you wonder where the time went. I went shopping with them and of course, I could move around in crowds effortlessly with my hands-free while Junior was fast asleep dribbling on my chest. The love and joy they bring you are priceless – You will treasure those precious memories you spent with them long after they have left home.
Which Baby Carrier is best for the Baby?
It can be quite daunting finding the right baby carrier. BABYBJÖRN has a range of baby carriers to suit all tastes. BABYBJÖRN carriers are ergonomically tested for your baby and can be used from birth onwards. Click on the carrier guide to find the most suitable carrier for your baby and useful tips for brand new parents which will help you overcome that anxious feeling of being a parent.
Bjorn Baby Carrier Review
Product Name: Bjorn Baby Carrier
Price: £49.99 – £119.99
Overall Rank: 60 out of 100
The Good & the Bad
PRO: Good support, excellent weight distribution, easy to get on and off
CON: It’s a bit bulky
Who is Bjorn Baby Carrier suitable for? You can use a baby carrier as soon as your baby is born! … We recommend waiting until your child is 12 months old before you carry them on your back
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